Love is the heart of healing. In a world full of distractions, we need more love to truly connect, heal, and support one another—especially in our work.
Somewhere along the way, many healing spaces stopped talking about love.
Not romantic love.
Not sentimental love.
But the kind of love that sits with you in silence.
That holds space without needing to fix.
That says, “You’re not alone in this.”
So—what happened?
Why did love, the most ancient and powerful healing force, get left behind?
The Shift Toward Clinical Objectivity
As therapy and coaching moved toward evidence-based methods, the focus narrowed: diagnoses, data, outcomes. Love—too abstract, too immeasurable—felt out of place.
Yet in doing so, we often traded warmth for metrics, forgetting that healing is as much about being held as it is about being assessed.
Ethics Over Intimacy: The Love-Boundary Dilemma
To protect both clients and practitioners, boundaries became clearer. That’s essential. But somewhere in this rigidity, warm, attuned presence began to feel unsafe or unprofessional.
We began confusing neutrality with care.
The Rise of Performance Over Presence
In modern coaching, productivity often takes center stage. Mindset. Metrics. High-performance hacks.
But love isn’t efficient. It can’t be measured in KPIs. It doesn’t scale. So it quietly exits the room—yet its absence is always felt.
Radical Individualism in Healing Culture
Self-help told us to do it all ourselves: self-regulate, self-soothe, self-improve.
But healing isn’t a solo endeavor.
We forget: we are wired for connection.
Love is not a weakness—it’s our nervous system’s original home.
Trauma Healing Became Mechanized
The trauma-informed revolution has brought profound tools: nervous system regulation, somatic safety, neuroplasticity.
But when healing becomes mechanized, we risk missing what cannot be coded or charted: soul-deep, sacred love.
The Disconnection from Sacred Love
Spiritual Disconnection & the Substitution of Love
In our effort to stay secular,
sacred love was quietly exiled.
We replaced compassion with empathy—but they are not the same.
Empathy feels with you.
Compassion moves toward you.
One can observe suffering…
The other chooses to stay and hold it. When we stripped love and spiritual presence
from healing spaces, we chose words over warmth. And the deep, transformative force of love?
Still rare. Still missing.
The Invitation: Let Love Back In
Love isn’t a strategy. It’s a posture. A presence.
And it is, still, the most powerful healing agent we have.
Not soft. Not sentimental.
Sacred. Human. Necessary.
If we want deep, lasting change—we need love in the room.
Love that sees. That stays. That says: “You matter. Still.”
Your Turn: What Role Does Love Play in Your Healing Work?
If you hold space for others—coach, therapist, healer, guide—
How do you honor love in your practice?
How might we bring it back into our collective healing?
I’d love to hear from you.
Leave a comment.
Let’s start the conversation love was never meant to leave.
